I’ve been journaling about my year-end goals. I’m wrapping up two books: one on fitness and one on journaling.
This has been a milestone year, my 50th as of last week, and I am happier than I was when I hit 40.
Last week I started to share the way I rose to this feeling.
I haven’t always felt happy, which probably comes as a huge surprise to the many folks who’ve known me.
I’ve been in search for answers most of my adult life. Okay, let me just say it outright–I’ve looked for validation most of my life.
That’s not something people openly admit about themselves, but I believe being honest about who and where you are means you’ll also be aware when you find what you seek.
My search led me to live in several cities since I left Iowa 23 years ago. I looked for myself in Chicago, Los Angeles, New York, New Jersey, then back to New York.
Falling is a good way to make somebody look up.
I’ll be sharing the 50 ways I found HAPPY over the next 10 weeks.
Below are 5 more things that have made me happy at 50.
Remember, I’ll be adding 5 each week over the next 10 weeks.
Tell me what you think and add to my list in the comments section.
6. Listen to something inspiring every day.
I Youtube inspiring stuff when I shower in the morning and again as I fall asleep. (Youtube is now a verb). One of my favorite YouTube channels is YouAreCreators created by Justin Perry.
It features short seminars, books on”tape”, and commentary by Justin.
7. Feel your sucky feelings fully.
I’m talking about the feelings we’d rather avoid. Don’t wait, don’t wear the mask, don’t expect your negative feelings to go away by themselves. Dissing your feelings invites regret and stokes resentment, the two skills complainers have mastered.
I feel my feelings in my journal every morning. I scribble them in anger, frustration, sadness, confusion, and overwhelm until I can write myself some sort of solution. In my journal I ask: What is this awful feeling showing me about my choices, my life, my goal, or my action?
Every emotion is valid. The sucky ones can take us to places we fear, but those places could show answers we’ve searched for all this time.
8. Read so you can practice visualizing.
One of the things I love about reading fiction is I get to escape into somebody else’s life, live in their body, their house, their relationships. As a kid I’d pretend to be different characters through my Barbie dolls, my Cher doll, and my Marie from the Donny and Marie doll set. Yep, my characters were singers most of the time. But I’d also play teacher and mama every day up till sixth grade.
I would shape-shift to become whoever I visualized. When I read fiction, I do the same thing.
The practice of visualizing becomes useful for changing any circumstance you’ve grown out of and want to shed, or used to embody any persona you aspire to become. Practice seeing beyond what’s right in front of you by reading more fiction. Plus, it’ll get you off your phone for an hour.
9. Direct deposit your savings and retirement funds.
It’s absolutely true that money burns a hole in your pocket. If you tend to slip your hand into your jeans to retrieve a $10 bill, but end up tickling a thigh, you might want to try directly depositing your goal-money into accounts.
To me, money is like handling brownies or white cheddar cheese Pirate’s Booty or Ritz crackers. If they’re in my house, I’m gonna eat em. And by eat em, I mean eat till there isn’t anymore left. So, I do not have those items in my house. I leave them at the store until I want one.
I’d rather keep my cash in the bank and let online banking distribute my funds. Before you know, your savings and retirement accounts are hefty and you’ve lost weight from not carrying around wads of cash (that keeps disappearing anyway).
10. Look lovingly at yourself.
Use a mirror.
I like to smile when I look in a mirror, otherwise I look pretty grim. My thinking face does weird stuff to my mouth and forehead. Ugh.
The mirror is a good place to connect with yourself. I’m aware people don’t like to look at their reflection or can’t do it without thinking horrible thoughts about what they think they see.
Try looking, smiling, and saying what Louise Hay used to say: I love you. I really love you.
Do it right now. I dare you.
5 more ways to HAPPY next week.
Till then, live above ordinary. I will, too.