Five Happy Reminders

I’ve been reflecting on the stuff that’s turned me from always smiling (though somewhat frustrated inside) to absolutely fulfilled and in love with my life.

Seriously, I never thought those words would come out of my mouth. The words: I am happy. Not just today either. I’m happier every day, like when I was a kid.

I was a focused kid. Really creative and really bold.

I lost the bold part somewhere between my senior year of college and my late thirties. No one could tell, but I knew.

I’ve used my journal to check-in with my emotions to see what changed. What leaked my mojo during those years? 

Since my birthday this July, I’ve been sharing the ways I’ve gotten my mojo to flow again.

Based on what I discovered through journaling every day for the past 4 years, I’m sharing the 50 ways I found happy.

I’ll be adding 5 every week.

Check out the first 5 , the second 5,

As usual, let each group sink in.
Ponder them. Practice them, if you want.
Maybe you’ll agree, maybe not. Maybe they’ll inspire you to add to my list.

Tell me what you think or add to my list in the comments section.

 

21. TMI is real.

Whenever I’ve tried to do everything at once, I’ve just gotten confused and overwhelmed. 

I lost weight the first time because I focused on one teacher’s instruction. I moved to New York with only $400 (in 1996) by focusing on one goal when I arrived–training clients in a high-end fitness club. Check☑︎

I could fill this page with accomplishments that happened because I got focused and aimed all my energy at one goal.

Try it. It’ll give you life.

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22. Your entire aura will glow if you do this.

You’ll be able to make others happy if you do this. You’ll receive inspired ideas, if you do this. You’ll find all your inner treasures, if you do this.

If you don’t, you’ll feel exhausted or invisible. Nuff said.

 

23. We do not know our entire path. All we can expect to know is our next step. So take it.

When folks wait and wait and before they move into their wants and desires, they usually don’t move. Stagnation will put you on a path toward regret.

Movement will lead to something: something new, something desired, something better understood, something you want, even if it’s different from what you thought you wanted. Who knows?

But these options feel better than regret.

Movement will lead to something: something new, something desired, something better understood, something you want, even if it's different from what you thought you wanted. Who knows? But these options feel better than regret. Click To Tweet

24. It might not make sense now, but keep moving.

This finishes my thought in #23.

Keep moving. It’ll make sense when you finish the big picture.

25. Bold is the way. I don’t mean you should bust down doors and push folks out of your way kind of bold. 

Be bold in your belief. Who do you think you are?

We announce who we think we are all day long.

I’m tired. I’m sick of it. I’m not that type. I don’t… I have too much… I don’t like…

Whatever we believe, it is true.

And you don’t have to believe it out loud.

Whatever we believe in secret, we are available to.

So, in secret, be bold and trust yourself. Trust your body to be strong, to heal, to be ready. Trust your decisions. Trust your gut. Trust your plan. Trust your vision for your life. 

Be the king of your beliefs.

Whatever we believe in secret, we are available to. So, in secret, be bold and trust your body to be strong, to heal, to be ready. Trust your decisions, your gut, your vision for your life. Be the king of your beliefs. Click To Tweet

 

Hope these make you live!

See ya next week. Till then, live above ordinary.

I will, too.

Michelle Bernard

More Ways to HAPPY

Since my birthday 4 weeks ago, I’ve been journaling about how I rose to this feeling of happy.

 

I didn’t feel so good 8 years ago. I was frustrated, though no one knew it. I smiled all the time, but inside I wasn’t content with my life experience.

It was puzzling.

I had a great one bedroom apartment in New York city, an adorable puppy, a couple very close friends, and a job that was fulfilling.

Years of journaling showed me what was missing.

I wanted life to be linear. I believed my life was supposed to be lived like rungs on a ladder.

 

I made a dance video one afternoon. I danced my emotion out for 4 minutes and afterward I bathed in sweat and joy. The next week I did it again. After several more, I named the collection of VIDS: Celebration of Life series.

When I decided to celebrate life, every part of my life, every emotion, every experience, every day; my happy returned.

Life isn’t a ladder. It’s simply a celebration.

I’ve decided to share 5 ways that I celebrate my happy over 10 weeks of posts.

This is week 4. I’m posting 5 more ways below–numbers 16-20.

I’ll be adding 5 more next week.

As usual, let each group sink in. Read the other posts so you can see them all.
Ponder them. Practice them, if you want.
Maybe you’ll agree, maybe not. Maybe they’ll inspire you to add to my list.

Tell me what you think or add to my list in the comments section.

16.   You don’t have to hurt the person you once loved.

I had the best divorce ever last year. It was great because we are still friends. We talk on the phone for hours at a time–not often, but we still share important bits from our lives with each other.

Everyone promised the divorce process would last for years, I’d probably fight over money, we’d yell and say things we’d regret… I refused all of it.

I spoke directly to my ex-husband about creating an outcome that would please us both. He agreed.

Bitterness in relationships just messes people up for the next person who gets ’em.

In the past, I’ve been hurt by so many dudes, and I’ve done the hurting.

Enough. I want my ex-husband to feel good about himself when he moves on to his next relationship.

I feel great, too.

 

17.   Oooo, I do not like when people talk negatively about other people I know.

I understand that we all need to discharge our thoughts about people and situations. We need to talk to somebody if we’re afraid or frustrated. I get it.

But it’s totally obnoxious when the people you’re dissing are people I know!

Even though I do not like it, there’s something I can learn from it.

I’m learning that it looks ugly when folks put people down. I don’t want to look ugly that way.

Also, when I’m around this sort of conversation, I don’t say anything, I say something nice or… you know what?… I think I’ll just walk away.

 

18.   I love you used to be challenging to say. I wasn’t raised with those words.

The first time I said it was to my college boyfriend at age 20, and he had to give me 3 months to get all three words out together.

Now, I’m used to them. I have so many people I give those words to. This is one of the amazing ways I celebrate my life.

 

19. You can’t lose.

I’ve noticed that bitter people are the ones who think you can lose.

Everything you experience, whether liked or not liked, matters if you’re open to learning something new or willing to evolve something you’ve learned earlier.

We just keep collecting wins. It’s called wisdom.

 

20.   I pray about everything. EVERYTHING.

And because I believe in the prayers, because I expect them to be answered, they are. Not always in the way or shape I’ve asked, but they are always answered.

That’s why I’ve seen my share of miracles.

Most of them have been BIG.

The more I notice, the more I’ll notice.

Visit the other posts if you missed the first 15, and I’ll have more for you next week.

Till then,

Live above ordinary.

Michelle Bernard

18 decisions that’ll probably sabatoge your health and fitness goals

You are determined to lose 20 pounds.

Congratulations.
I commend you for making the space in your mind and life for this new manifestation of yourself.
Since you’re ready for this courageous undertaking to get into your desired shape, shake-off some old habits.

To elevate your life, make a change in the way you use your energy, manage your time, and live above ordinary by actually pursuing your meaningful goals, you’ll need to uphold certain boundaries and beliefs.

 

There are old behaviors and decisions to leave behind.

Here are 18 behaviors that’ll probably sabatoge your health and fitness goal. Shake them off.
  1. ✄Have conversations about how hard it is to schedule a workout 
  2. ✄Smoke a pack of cigarettes every day
  3. Buy boxed, packaged, and bottled diet foods
  4. ✄Eat what everybody else is eating
  5. ✄Keep cookies and crackers in your cupboard
  6. ✄Workout 7 days a week because you’re trying to lose weight fast
  7. ✄Skip stretching
  8. ✄Skip strength training
  9. ✄Don’t eat all day so you can have space in your stomach for the holiday dinner
  10. Weigh yourself every day
  11. ✄Drink alcohol most days of the week
  12. ✄Buy a snickers when you’re hungry  (substitute Kit Kat, Ruffles, Doritos…)
  13. ✄Eat 1000 calories or less per day (you might be able to pull this off if you weigh less than 90 pounds)
  14. Count calories with no regard for the type of food the calories come from
  15. ✄Drink bottled juice throughout the day
  16. ✄Exercise while exerting absolutely no effort
  17. ✄Check your cell phone more than 2 times during your 30-minute workout (Parents might need to. Everybody else… Tell people you’re busy.  Or don’t. They can wait 30 minutes for you.)
  18. ✄Skip a workout because it’s raining, it’s sunny, it’s windy…

These 18 behaviors are only for people who do not want to go ALL IN.

 

 

If you really want to lose weight and keep it off, you will advance-schedule 4-6 exercise days and times every week, you’ll learn about food as NUTRITION, not calories, and you’ll get your heart and mind connected to the reasons why losing the weight is most important to you.

 

Beginning on June 1, I’ll be giving you an action each day till June 21st to  help you create a new body this summer.

By June 21st, you’ll have 21 habits and behaviors to implement over the months of the season. And if you continue to implement the 21 actions after summer ends, you’ll keep seeing awesome results of improved health and body confidence.

 

But, you don’t need to wait till June 1st for day 1.

Read my book now and start today.

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